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Do You have Realistic Expectations for Your Pain??
May 01, 2015

"Yes You Can"
Living with Back Pain Newsletter

Hi Everyone,
My name is Dave and I run the website at Just like you, I am living with back pain and have been for many years. I started his website to try and help people, like myself, who are living with pain that will never go away.

"Yes You Can" live the life you want.


The Twelfth Edition of "Yes You Can", #0012

Well, here it is another edition of "Yes You Can". This month in the Tough Talk section we discuss the importance of having realistic expectations for your treatments and for your life. Our distraction section presents another great way to take a break from your pain.

Check out our contribution from the web for some common sense advice from an ergonomic specialist on how to manage and treat pain.

Bringing up the rear, (Seriously?) we have the latest webpage from Living with Back Pain will tell you everything you ever wanted to know about tailbone pain (Pardon the pun).

I am glad I could bring this information to you, and I hope you enjoy it. "Yes You Can" live the life you want.


Tough Talk About a Tough Problem

Realistic Expectations and
Everyone has Problems

Family problems, I wish I was taller, Depression, I Need to get Better Grades, Anxiety, Arthritis, COPD, Difficult Employers and Work Conditions, I want to Find a Better Job,
Not Enough Money, Too Little Time, Chronic Pain

Life is full or difficulties and no one's life is perfect. Think about an attractive athlete making millions of dollars a year. How could they have problems? Then they get arrested for domestic violence.

Someone wins the lottery. How could they have problems? Then they get killed or injured in a home invasion.

Unable to "manage" their Life

Famous movie star has a hit television series. She is living high, and enjoying life with lots of money and friends. Then the show gets cancelled and a year later she is broke and homeless.

The point is that everyone has problems that need to be managed. The people that we see as successful are the people who are able to manage their problems.

How well are You Managing Your Life?
Do You have Realistic Expectations?

The first step in managing chronic pain is accepting the fact that it is never going to go away. Ever. That is why they call it chronic pain. Because it will be there until you die.

That does not mean that you cannot have a happy and fulfilling life.

Successful people develop effective coping strategies that allow them to live their life and enjoy their life in spite of whatever discomfort they may be feeling.

That does not mean that you should not treat your pain, but you must have realistic expectations about what treatments can do.

No Treatment is Perfect

Physical therapy and exercise can be helpful for some people. But, it is easy to overdo and if you stop exercising your condition may deteriorate.

Massage or a hot tub may make you feel better but the relief is often temporary.

Nothing is going to make You Painfree

Improving your diet can be helpful for some people. If you are overweight, losing pounds will often help to reduce your pain. Both of these can be helpful but they are not going to take your pain away.

Pain medication can be useful for some people. However, there are limits to what it can do and there are risks when it is not used correctly.

Every Year People Die from taking too much Pain Medication

In some cases there is wanton abuse of the drugs but in many cases they were just trying to relieve their pain. In both cases they are dead.

Narcotics probably have the biggest risk of death because of respiratory depression. They can slow your breathing to the point you stop breathing and die.

Medications not taken Correctly can Kill You

Other medications also have risks that can be life threatening. Muscle relaxers and anti-anxiety medications when not taken correctly can cause sedation or sleepiness. You fall into such a deep sleep that you quit breathing and die in your sleep.

Anti-inflammatories when taken in large amounts can lead to erosion of your stomach lining. These ulcers or sores in your stomach can start bleeding, sometimes suddenly.

Estimates range from a few thousand to several thousand people that die every due to anti-inflammatories that you can buy over the counter (Risks Associated with NSAID ).

It is important to have realistic expectations
about what any type of treatment can do.
And another important point: Pain does not kill people

Using Your Brain to Control Your Pain

Finding other ways to focus your attention on something besides the pain can be very effective and there is no lethal dose. No one has ever died from meditation, reading a book, or fantasizing about food or sex. (Check past editions for more on that last one)

Using your brain takes focus and effort but it is the best pain management tool that you have. Learn to use it.

People must choose to suffer.

"Yes You Can" live the life you want.


What Is In A Distraction?

Listening to music can take your brain away from your pain

But, it has to be music that you really like and you simply must really listen to it. Modern technology makes music sound so great even with inexpensive equipment.

Find something that moves You

Find some of your favorite artists. Big band, jazz, hip hop, or whatever, it doesn't matter, it just needs to be something that grabs you.

A cheap set of earbuds makes music sound good, and if you can find some headphones, they can make music sound phenomenal. Close your eyes and listen intently to each instrument.

Tap your foot, or clap your hands with the music. Free your mind and let the music take it away.

Don't tell me you don't like music.

Everyone likes some type of music unless they decide to refuse to like music. If you decide that you can't like any kind of music. If you decide there are no sounds that lift you up or brighten your day. Then that is your decision and I guess you will have to live with it.

Everyone else come with me and let's go find some music.

Well that is my distraction for this month.
How much pain relief do you really want?
How much pain relief can you stand?

"Yes You Can" live the life you want.


Latest from the Web

This article, written by an Ergonomics Injury Prevention Specialist gives excellent advice about everyday activities and how to prevent or relieve back pain, neck pain and carpal tunnel symptoms. It really is worth a look.

Improved posture, dynamic stretching reverse pain

"Yes You Can" live the life you want.


Latest News from

This latest webpage on Living with Back pain covers Coccydynia or tail bone pain. Your coccyx is easily injured during childbirth or if you fall landing on your buttocks. The good news is that it is seldom treated with surgery. Find out what you can do and what can be done to relieve your tailbone pain.

Coccydynia, and Everything You ever wanted to know about Tailbone Pain

"Yes You Can" live the life you want.


Well, that is it for this month.

Shoot me an e-mail at and let me know what you think. Good or bad I read them all.

A wise person once said, “Happiness is a decision. You are as happy as you decide to be.”

So, decide to be happy. Put a smile on your face and decide to have a good day because "Yes You Can" have the life you want.


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