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February 03, 2016

"Yes You Can"
Living with Back Pain Newsletter

Hi Everyone,
My name is Dave and I run the website at Just like you, I am living with back pain and have been for many years. I started his website to try and help people, like myself, who are living with pain that will never go away.

I apologize for not posting anything new for the past few months but my life has been going through some changes. My wife and I have sold our home and moved to a new city and we are both just started new jobs. I am still working in pain management and looking forward to building my new practice.

After all the changes, things seem to have calmed down and stabilized so that we can spend more time working on our web site and bringing you more interesting things to help you learn to manage your pain.

"Yes You Can" live the life you want.


Another Edition of "Yes You Can", #0015

Well, here it is another edition of "Yes You Can". This month we start off a brief discussion on the importance of the words we say and how they affect what we think and feel. Our distraction this month can affect your life in a very positive way as well as help you control your pain.

From the Internet I found a study on placebos that seems to demonstrate the importance of what we think. I have also added some links two a couple of new pages on thoracic back pain and how to treat it.

I hope you enjoy it.

"Yes You Can" live the life you want.


Tough Talk About a Tough Problem

Manage Your Words and Manage Your Pain

How many times a day do you mention your pain?

Do you ever use your pain as a reason to avoid certain people or situations?

Did you know that verbalizing your pain gives it power over your life?

Many years ago when I was first learning to live with my back pain I found out that talking about my pain gave it special power, especially over my finances.

When you are a construction worker they are always looking for a reason to put you on the next layoff. If they find out that you have ever had a back injury, or a problem with your back, they immediately become concerned about you RE- injuring your back at their expense.

In the beginning I was naive and I would explain the blank spot in my work history by telling them about my motorcycle accident and my back injury.

I never got hired.

Eventually I learned to keep my mouth shut and then I was able to get a job. Even after I got hired I kept quiet about my back. I was afraid to tell anyone that I could not do this or that because of my back. I needed a job and I did not want to get laid off because of my back.

I might say "I'm not big enough to lift that", or "I'm not strong enough", or "I am busy doing something else", or even " I don't want to injure my back"; but I never said it was because of my existing back pain.

Sometimes by the end of the day I would be in a lot of pain and I would just go home and lie on the floor because of my back. But I did not get laid off and I was able to keep my job.

Pretty soon I learned that talking about my pain made it worse.

When I discovered that I could get through the day of work without mentioning my pain I started doing the same thing at home. I already knew that my complaining was annoying my wife and family and I hated that; so I stopped bringing it up.

Just saying the words focuses your attention on the pain. Not saying the words and forcing yourself to focus your attention elsewhere diminishes the pain. It makes it smaller. It takes away its power to control your life.

Making Excuses

If there are things that you do not want to do because of your pain, you can refuse to say that it is because of the pain. You can make excuses: "I'm too tired", "I'll do it later", or even "I don't want to" are all good options.

We all have things that we need to do, and we all have things that we cannot do. Every person has to decide for themselves how much they are going to do. But the less you can talk about your pain; the fewer times you mention your pain every day, the less power it has over you. The less it limits your life.

Learn to Keep Your Mouth Shut

Like always, I know there are people who will say "You don't know what I'm going through.", or "My pain is worse than yours."

And just like always, I say "Your pain is what you make it!!!". If you say, "That won't work for me", you're probably right.

But if you say, "That will work for me", or "I can do that", you will be taking your a step towards managing your pain and living the life that you want.

Everybody has pain in their lives.
People must choose to suffer.

"Yes You Can" live the life you want.


What Is In A Distraction?

Pets Control Pain

I have a big one for you this month. This is only for people who are truly dedicated to managing their pain and living their lives.

Take Responsibility and Feel The Love

Having a dog and taking responsibility for its care is a big step for someone who is living with chronic pain. But the payoff can be huge.

Both in terms of not only better managing your pain, but also in terms of receiving unconditional, non-judgmental, constant love and admiration.

Cats also have a lot to offer

Other types of pets can be easier to care for, but like so many things in life, you get back what you put in.

Being responsible for a pet requires activity and focusing your attention on something besides you and your pain. Feeding, bathing, exercising and otherwise caring for the needs of your pet helps you to put your needs in perspective.

Too Much Responsibility?

If the thought of caring for a pet every day is overwhelming for you, consider the Humane Society. They always have dog walking programs where you could go and interact with the animals.

Who knows? You may find one that you want to bring home.

Well that is my distraction for this month.
How much pain relief do you really want?
How much pain relief can you stand?

"Yes You Can" live the life you want.


Latest from the Web

This is great!! New studies on how placebos work demonstrated that "THE PAIN" really is all in your head. Your nerves simply transmit a sensation to your brain. How your brain processes that sensation is what makes it "PAIN" or just another annoying sensation.

Check this out: Mind Games: Can Placebos Be Used To Treat Chronic Pain?

"Yes You Can" live the life you want.


Latest News from

Discover our latest series on Thoracic Back Pain and what you can do when simple treatments don't help.

Thoracic Back Pain is most Commonly Muscle Pain

Thoracic Back Pain Ch3 When Home Treatments Don't Work

"Yes You Can" live the life you want.


Well, that is it for this month.

We have some very exciting things that we are working on for the next few issues so if you haven't signed up to get the newsletter every month, make sure and do that today.

Shoot me an e-mail at and let me know what you think. Good or bad I read them all. Stay busy and enjoy your life because "Yes You Can" have the life you want.


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